The day before we left for our 2019 East Coast Tour, while taking my final bubble bath, I had this brilliant pre-tour idea for my husband Brandon and I:
We should each make a list of all the goals that we have for our 5 weeks on the road.
Then narrow it down to our top three in order of importance.
We’ve been really focusing on individual growth this whole year, so I felt it was important that we not only made sure we knew what we wanted for ourselves in this time period, but were also hyper-aware of what the OTHER wanted, so that we could best support one another on our personal quests.
It was a really insightful exercise, and what I recognized was that MY HEALTH had become my number one priorityy.
This includes my physical health, mental health, and vocal health. All area’s that I’ve worked really hard to strengthen this year.
I’m training for a half-marathon;
I’m trying to curate contentment and joy on a daily basis;
and I’ve become wildly protective of my voice after dealing with semi-serious vocal fatigue a few months ago.
So in order to maintain all three of these healthy habits, and with each requiring their own regimen and routine that don’t exactly pair easily with living on the road in hotels, guest bedrooms, and LOTS of socializing around crock-pots of queso, I HAD to have a plan if I was ever going to succeed.
So I decided to make a BOLD claim to my husband and myself.
Rather than my normal tour behavior of hitting the pause button and “fixing it when I get home” like I’ve always done in years past, I wanted to dedicate myself to doing whatever it took to actually come home stronger than I left!
And here’s where it gets good…
Brandon’s number one priority was to have more ENERGY and UNIQUE EXPERIENCES.
On past tours (especially last year’s) we struggled with constant exhaustion.
So the idea of adding MORE experiences that would require more energy and effort into our schedule always seemed like a tiresome and daunting chore, rather than a release.
However, three months ago he joined a rock climbing gym which began to slowly shift his way of thinking when it came to his health.
*For the majority of you that don’t know my husbands health history, it pretty much consisted of cigarettes and coffee, and his idea of exercise was sitting up in bed to grab a can of Pringles from the kitchen. He made significant jumps over the years by cutting back on caffeine and quitting smoking, but still deeply resisted the whole “sweating for fun” thing….until rock climbing*
One significant thing he started to really key into was how much more energy he felt like he had after climbing, especially on those busy jam-packed days that would typically leave him feeling worn out!
And after a few months of consistently turning our attention to our physical bodies in our own ways, we both finally realized the GOLDEN RULE:
EXERCISE CREATES MORE ENERGY! 🥳
It doesn’t tire you out – it pumps you the f**k UP!!🤸🏻♀️
It’s the literal ANTIDOTE to being tired 😴, and unmotivated🚶🏻♂️, and bored 🙇🏻♀️, and stressed 🤯!!!
SO – after discussing our top goals and realizing they were totally in alignment to feed off of each other, we have been able to create a tour that has been FILLED with unique and challenging ways to move our bodies no matter what city we’re in.
Last week I pushed through my limiting beliefs and fear of riding a bike after 20 YEARS!! I wobbled around petrified for about 10 minutes before realizing – it REALLY IS like riding a bike, and we road for 8 miles with our cousins through the luscious green backwoods of Connecticut before making our way to the show that night.
Yesterday, we dragged ourselves to a walking trail, and for the first time in the history of our relationship, we ran side by side in the blazing sun, and huffed and puffed through one-hundred-million burpees, squats, and push-ups, until we had no reps left to give.
And tomorrow, we head out at 5am to Acadia National Park to take in, what I’ve been told, are the most breathtaking views in all of our American Parks, while Brandon works his way up a REAL rock with the help of a climbing guide we hired for the day.
So needless-to-say, I’m truly the happiest little wifey there ever was, FINALLY having my husband as my workout partner after so many years of going at it alone with him on the sidelines. #DreamsComeTrue
With all that said, I do want to leave with you this…
If you have a partner who isn’t on your level––whether it be with your career goals, fitness goals, or life goals––I encourage you to simply continue to LEAD BY EXAMPLE and remember the key word:
Who you both are today, is not who you will both be tomorrow. And while, it certainly is easier to go at it together– until your partner is READY to change for themselves, trust me when I say, nagging and pushing them to become something they aren’t ready to be, will do neither of you any good!
So KEEP GOING and SHOW them what growth and greatness looks like.
They’ll start to catch up when they see how freakin’ alive you become more and more every day!
PS. If you enjoyed this blog and it sparked ideas for your own further development, leave a comment below and tell us all about it!
P.S.S. if you want to follow our HEALTH journey on a daily basis, we’ve been sharing much of it on Instagram Stories this season. Just Follow us @TheGibbonses
(for my mother-in-law who definitely reads these blogs but doesn’t understand social media handles: go to www.instagram.com/thegibbonses and tap the circle with our faces inside of it to watch 😉)